Funny thing is I thought [my issues over my divorce] were all resolved. I've found out that isn't so, and it's not good to sweep what happened under the rug. I'm having to confront something I just want to deny and forget. When this is done, I hope I can enjoy peace with this issue.
The "Christian" thing to do is to bury our hurt and our sorrow at being treated as less-than. But like any wrong, if we remain silent, nothing changes and the wrong persists.
When we liberate ourselves by telling the truth of our experience, we also give individuals and churches an opportunity to examine themselves. It's my prayer that more and more Christians and their churches will turn from legalism and judgement toward mercy when they understand the consequences of that choice. If you have a Christian divorce story to tell, consider contributing to that change by sharing it here.
I advocate for healing of divorced people within the church by gathering stories of Christians who chose divorce because of abuse, and the response of their churches to that decision. (I'm interested in both helpful and hurtful experiences.) I also include those who have divorced because of their spouse's infidelity but have nevertheless been blamed by their church for the divorce.
If you’re interested in having your voice heard by contributing your divorce story in relationship to the church, please email me at LindaMKurthBlog@gmail.com for guidelines. I’ll be happy to help you share your story.
Know that I encourage respectful comments, keeping the blog a safe place to dialog about this subject.