"You desired illegitimate authority in you home and now you are worse off than before [the divorce.] You no longer have the spiritual covering of your husband and are open to Satan's attacks," he declared.
He went on to say, "I recommend you find a church where there is strong male headship and no compromising of clear scripture." And ""I see you as an incredibly controlling person...God can soften your stiff neck and heart of stone, but it will be His way or no way." On it went for three pages.
My heart pounding, I jumped into my van and headed for the freeway where I could scream my head off without anyone hearing me. I knew I couldn't let this man's accusations go, but how on earth was I to answer him?
Linda M. Kurth is a writer and a divorced and remarried Christian. In going through the divorce, she experienced a dichotomy of responses from the Christian community. After sharing some of those experiences in her upcoming memoir, God, the Devil, and Divorce, she's heard many stories of divorced Christians who have struggled with the same issue. This blog invites divorced Christians to tell their stories with the goal of encouraging churches to resist condemnation and become a source of healing and grace.
I advocate for healing of divorced people within the church by gathering stories of Christians who chose divorce because of abuse, and the response of their churches to that decision. (I'm interested in both helpful and hurtful experiences.) I also include those who have divorced because of their spouse's infidelity but have nevertheless been blamed by their church for the divorce.
If you’re interested in having your voice heard by contributing your divorce story in relationship to the church, please email me at LindaMKurthBlog@gmail.com for guidelines. I’ll be happy to help you share your story.
Know that I encourage respectful comments, keeping the blog a safe place to dialog about this subject.