Funny thing is I thought [my issues over my divorce] were all resolved. I've found out that isn't so, and it's not good to sweep what happened under the rug. I'm having to confront something I just want to deny and forget. When this is done, I hope I can enjoy peace with this issue.
This quote is from an email R.H. wrote me as she wrestled with the writing of her story, Liberation from the Patriarchal Church. Sharing our Christian divorce stories takes courage. Personally, I was warned not to show how hurtful, and even hateful. some Christians and their churches can be during the most painful and vulnerable experience of our lives. The "Christian" thing to do is to bury our hurt and our sorrow at being treated as less-than. But like any wrong, if we remain silent, nothing changes and the wrong persists. When we liberate ourselves by telling the truth of our experience, we also give individuals and churches an opportunity to examine themselves. It's my prayer that more and more Christians and their churches will turn from legalism and judgement toward mercy when they understand the consequences of that choice. If you have a Christian divorce story to tell, consider contributing to that change by sharing it here.
I'm gathering stories of other Christians who chose divorce because of abuse, and the response of their churches to that decision. If you are a Christian and interested in contributing your own divorce story in relationship to the church, please message me at https://www.facebook.com/LindaMKurthAuthor. I'm interested in both helpful and hurtful experiences. Know that I encourage respectful comments here, keeping this blog a safe place to dialog about this subject.