I'm gathering stories of other Christians who chose divorce because of abuse, and the response of their churches to that decision. If you are a Christian and interested in contributing your own divorce story in relationship to the church, please message me at https://www.facebook.com/LindaMKurthAuthor. I'm interested in both helpful and hurtful experiences. Know that I encourage respectful comments here, keeping this blog a safe place to dialog about this subject.
Liberation from the Patriarchal Church by R.H.
experiences that occurred during my marriage. I felt that the pain and terror of the marriage and divorce were long resolved and didn’t affect my life. Upon recent reflection and writing, I found that not to be true.
The mental and emotional abuse, infidelity, and violence were not demonstrated during our year-long courtship. They came about after we moved to rural Idaho. In despair, pain and shame, I sought out the counsel of the family’s pastor.
President Jimmy Carter’s book, A Call to Action: Women, Religion and Power, expressed what I experienced. He addresses the suffering inflicted upon women by a false interpretation of carefully selected religious texts. Carter reveals how key verses are often omitted or quoted out of context by male religious leaders to exalt the status of men and exclude women. Carter states, “… the
After the divorce, within church walls or teachings, I gained no comfort. I was the woman who had a failed marriage. The status of my husband in this failure was of no matter. Anger and disappointment led me from institutional religion. I stay away to protect my heart, mind, and soul.