The Lord is not going to do the weeding for me. However ...
“Summertime, and the livin’ is easy,” goes one of my favorite songs I sing around the house. I do hope summertime has been easy for you. It’s not been so easy for me, but that’s the result of my choosing a large yard and garden with which to tend in addition to this writing life I continue to pursue.
Life is all about choices, isn’t it? All of us have made wrong choices a time or two, sometimes knowing they’re wrong but making them anyway. Sometimes, believing they are the right choice, but discovering later how wrong they really were. Experts encourage parents to let their children experience the consequences of their choices, unless of course, that choice leads to irreparable harm to themselves or others. I think of God as being a perfect parent. If we find ourselves in a dire situation because of a choice we've made, and cry out to our Father for help, He responds in ways that are in our best interest. (No, the Lord is not going to do my weeding for me.)
What am I getting at? If any of us are in a situation where we are emotionally or physically abused, I believe the Lord will help us find a way to escape. Sometimes that way can seem very scary or even impossible. It might mean leaving our family of origin. It might mean leaving our church. It might mean leaving financial security. The key is to trust in Him even when we don’t believe we can. That’s when the Lord really gets to work! That’s when we can experience the depths of God’s love. That’s when you can really begin the life of peace and love He wants for you. The Lord’s provision has been true for me, and if you are in a tough situation in your marriage, I pray it becomes true for you.
"Wherefore, be of good cheer, and do not fear, for I the Lord am with you, and will stand by you." John 16:33
Linda M. Kurth is a writer and a divorced and remarried Christian. In going through the divorce, she experienced a dichotomy of responses from the Christian community. After sharing some of those experiences in her upcoming memoir, God, the Devil, and Divorce, she's heard many stories of divorced Christians who have struggled with the same issues. This blog invites divorced Christians to tell their stories with the goal of encouraging churches to resist condemnation and become a source of healing and grace.
Do you have a divorce experience to share? Have you been shamed by a church because of your divorce? There are hurting people who need to hear your story, who need to know they are not alone, and who need to be encouraged. If you are interested in sharing your story, email Linda for guidelines: Linda@LindaMKurth.com
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