RH talks about in her guest blog post, Liberation from the Patriarchal Church. In her situation, she chose to divorce because of physical and emotional abuse. Yet, she was blamed by the church leaders and others for her husband's behavior. Somehow she hadn't been a "good Christian wife" in their eyes
There are instances of husbands divorcing their wives for physical or emotional abuse and having been shunned by their churches for this choice, because their wives were viewed as devout church women who could do no wrong. (If you are a Christian man who divorced because of your spouse's abuse and was condemned by your church, I hope you will share your story with my readers.)
I'm not claiming that all churches have a gender bias when it comes to divorce and other issues. My own church is a church of grace and not condemnation. I agree with David Instone-Brewer in his book, Divorce and Remarriage in the Church. He writes, "My hope is that the church will re-discover the biblical principles that divorce should occur only when marriage vows are broken and that only the wronged partner may decide whether this will happen."
Let us work toward healing divorced people within the church, shining a light on this issue of divorce and the church, and asking for grace-filled change. You can begin right here by sharing your story.
I'm advocating for healing of divorced people within the church by gathering stories for my blog of Christians who chose divorce because of abuse, and the response of their churches to that decision. I'm also including those who have divorced because of their spouse's infidelity but have nevertheless been blamed by their church for the divorce. If you are interested in contributing your own divorce story in relationship to the church, please message me at https://www.facebook.com/LindaMKurthAuthor. I'm interested in both helpful and hurtful experiences. Know that I encourage respectful comments here, keeping this blog a safe place to dialog about this subject.