I have read that this is how you induce psychosis in rats. You behave inconsistently with them; you keep changing the rules. One day when they press down the right lever, expecting a serving of grain like they’ve always gotten before, they instead get a shock. And eventually the switching back and forth drives them mad. Ann Lemont, Traveling Mercies.
In giving writing promps to guest bloggers who are interested in telling their Christian divorce stories, I've developed a broad definition of abuse.
Abuse can include, but not confined to, actual or threats of physical violence, actual or threats of sexual violence, emotional or psychological abuse to oneself or others in the home (e.g., name calling or putdowns, mind games, swearing or screaming, sarcasm or ridiculing, emotional or physical withholding), stalking (e.g., excessive calls/texts/emails, monitoring daily activities, using technology to track a person’s location), financial abuse (e.g., withholding money, ruining credit, stopping a partner from getting or keeping a job), and spiritual abuse (e.g., not allowing the partner to practice his or hers morals/religious beliefs or culture/values, using religious or spiritual beliefs to manipulate the partner).
What do I mean by "Christian divorce stories"? If you are a Christian and have divorced due to your spouse's abuse, I invite you to consider sharing your story with my readers as a guest blogger. I believe we can have a positive impact on the Church in regards to its response toward Christians who have had to choose divorce. I call it "Healing divorced people within the Church." Here's more information:
I'm advocating for healing of divorced people within the church by gathering stories for my blog of Christians who chose divorce because of abuse, and the response of their churches to that decision. I'm also including those who have divorced because of their spouse's infidelity but have nevertheless been blamed by their church for the divorce. If you are interested in contributing your own divorce story in relationship to the church, please message me at https://www.facebook.com/LindaMKurthAuthor. I'm interested in both helpful and hurtful experiences. Know that I encourage respectful comments here, keeping this blog a safe place to dialog about this subject.